The times that we do have specific rules, it really helps to involve the kids and bring them on board while setting rules that work for them too.  It takes account of parental and child’s needs and finds a way to meet both.   Can children adapt to the inconsistency?  Of course! They know every subtlest [...]

Negotiation has taken the place of many of our rules and limits.  That way, everyone’s needs and interests are being met.  We have become more loving, open, honest, and happy. Negotiation is saying to your child, “Honey, I know you can usually eat your lunch in the playroom, but I’m feeling a little under the [...]

I finally found a book that teaches that all my children’s behaviour falls into two basic categories:  acceptable to me and unacceptable to me.  Spaghetti on the rug is unacceptable.  Dried crackers on the rug were acceptable because they are easy to vacuum up.  In addition, the acceptance level we feel towards our children’s behaviour [...]

When I became a parent, I read more than 194 parenting books.  I discovered that most books promote the concept of parental consistency. Rules must be set, and strictly enforced.  Children want limits and parents must provide them, whether they are useful for the family or not.  Parents must never waiver.  Mean what you say [...]